What delighted me most in my conversation with her, was her repeated use of the word ‘we.’ They had made their relationship bigger than the both of them. And that’s how love looks in the most successful relationships. It looks as if both partners love each other as individuals, but they love their love even more. They exhault it, they celebrate it, they talk about it as if it’s a third force in the room created by their merged committment. They revere it and routinely and willingly make sacrifices for it.